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  • Rooted and Reaching

    Rooted and Reaching

    🌿 The Nourishment We Carry

    Trees feed themselves through an intricate root system that pulls water and nutrients from the soil. This process is quiet and constant. Hidden underground, the roots are doing the work of drawing in minerals that sustain every branch, leaf, and bud. The tree doesn’t rush; it trusts the slow, steady flow of nourishment rising from below.

    We do something similar. The nutrients we take in -from food, air, and sunlight -move through our bloodstream and into our cells, keeping our bodies strong and balanced. What trees absorb through roots, we absorb through veins. Our systems are internal, but they echo the same principle: life depends on circulation.

    But nourishment isn’t just physical. Trees respond to light, air, and the changing seasons. They bend with the wind, rest in winter, bloom when conditions are right. We, too, are shaped by what we take in emotionally and relationally, what we listen to, who we connect with, how we rest.  Tension can be softened with a kind word. Walking outdoors can calm the nervous system. A moment of stillness can restore balance.

    It’s all part of our internal and external ecosytem. Like trees, we need to be fed consistently to grow well, not just what we consume but how it circulates through us, keeping everything in rhythm. Growth is as much integration and flow, as it is about intake, and the importance of these quiet systems that sustain us.

    🪵 The Stillness that Holds Us

    Once whilst on a silent five day retreat was the instruction to go and stand opposite a tree, to feel commonality with it.

    An easy place to start in exploring this is the grounded rootedness at the base of the tree trunk, its roots reaching deep into the ground. It can be so helpful to feel that we, too, are rooted within solid ground.

    To stand before a tree is to be reminded that stability exists. 

    There are many moments during the day, be they fleeting or enduring, when the whirlwind of thought lifts us from ourselves. We can be swept up in mental activity for indefinite lengths of time, unaware even, that we have come away from a sense of ground.  Blown around like the weather and lacking a sense of stable ground beneath us.

    Trees offer the antidote. We could think of it as replugging the circuit: it’s as if without this electrical charge plugged into the ground we are susceptible to every wind that blows, every emotion, thought or mindstate. Grounding ourselves is like a re-entry into a slower current, an earth-borne vibration that steadies the nervous system.

    Trees can remind us that with a sense of our charge plugged into the earth, we don’t have to be tossed by every wind. We are wired, quite literally, to connect to the earth’s charge, to feel supported, held, regulated.

    This has always something of a fascinating area to me, ever since learning about the contemplations of the body in terms of earth, air, water and fire.  I could sense the vast potential of the earth element within trauma healing.  As if in confirmation of this, I learnt soon after that these modalities make much of grounding and stabilisation at their core.

    🌀 The Shape of Becoming

    We often talk about healing as something to achieve, almost as if new levels of growth are untouched by what came before. But isn’t it more the case that real growth is from accumulation of, rather than overwriting experience? Trees remind us of this so beautifully.

    When we look closely we can see where the bark thickened during a hard season, where water was scarce, where lightning kissed the trunk. Rather than scars these are integrity made visible. To honour experiences like these is to reject the pressure to be endlessly smooth or untouched. In a similar way I say that I grew through the fire, not over it. My depth isn’t formed from leaving stuff behind but from integrating it.

    The trees’ rings hold memory in form. Each ring corresponds to a year in the tree’s life. And in the same way, each year of our life leaves a trace, visible or felt so that our inner architecture is  built incrementally, from the inside out. Bodies and minds archive stories: grief that stretched us wider, joy that softened something brittle, stillness that taught us to listen to our heart. These rings are not always symmetrical, and nor should they be. They reflect how we’ve metabolised experience rather than just survived them. They hold the shape of us, year by year, without needing explanation.

  • The Paradox of Productivity

    The Paradox of Productivity

    There are days when the to-do list seems endless. It’s so overwhelming that I don’t even know where to begin.

    Every task feels important and starting one thing feels like neglecting another. The thought of the things I haven’t done, and the mental energy spent thinking about not having done them often feels more exhausting than actually doing them.

    But there’s still no clear starting point. It feels like time is being wasted, even though you’re constantly busy. It’s the familiar pattern of never taking a break, yet never catching up either.  It’s a cycle that’s all too easy to fall into.

    The pattern was a constant companion during my years as a primary school teacher. The pressure, the demands, the never-ending list of tasks, each one seeming to hold equal importance. With the eclectic life I have nowadays I often find that similar feeling creeping in: the more I try to keep up, the more overwhelmed I become.

    The Counterproductive Solution

    In these moments, what feels completely counterproductive is the idea of pausing. To do “nothing”. To breathe. To focus on the body and notice the sensations of breathing.

    On the surface, taking a break like this feels like the last thing I should be doing. I should be working, ticking off items from the list. It seems almost impossible to justify stepping away for a few moments when the pressure to “get things done” is so intense.

    But after just a few minutes of doing this, of being intentionally still, quiet, breathing…something shifts. When I return to the situation I was in, it feels different. Lighter. Quieter. The weight of the tasks that were looming over me doesn’t feel as heavy. I can see them more clearly, without the cloud of stress surrounding them.

    Presence Over Perfection

    I still don’t know exactly where to start, but I start somewhere with something. There’s a sense of presence now in whatever I’m doing. The background noise of tasks still exists, but it no longer controls my every thought and action. I can acknowledge the tasks that are piling up, and then let them go somehow without letting them define my entire day.

    This shift in perspective has been one of the most important lessons I’ve learned over time.  And the biggest insight I take from it is this:

    It’s in the moment when I feel I have the least time to meditate that I need it the most.

    We often believe that we’re too busy to take breaks, but it’s precisely in these moments when a pause can make all the difference. The act of sitting still, of taking a moment for mindfulness, is not a luxury or an indulgence. It’s an essential part of managing stress and maintaining clarity.

    More Than the Moment You Sit Down

    Meditation isn’t actually for the minutes we spend sitting in stillness as much as it’s for all the moment that follow. It’s the quiet intention that permeates everything else. Grounding ourselves creates a foundation of calm that we can carry with us throughout the day.

    Pausing, being still, turning our attention inward…these are not escapes, but returns to ourselves, to the present moment, and to the clarity we need to navigate everything else.  Stillness doesn’t solve the chaos of life but it softens our relationship to it. It allows us to approach our tasks, challenges and relationships with more patience, presence and perspective.

    From that place, I don’t need to have everything figured out before I start. I can just begin, one step at a time. The overwhelming weight of everything doesn’t feel as heavy and I move through the day more steadily.

    The Power of Pausing

    The irony is that stillness often feels like the least productive thing to do, especially in times of pressure. Yet in reality it’s often the most effective thing we can do. It’s the foundation for greater productivity, clarity and well-being. It helps us manage stress and become more mindful of how we respond to the demands of the day.

    So, the next time you feel the weight of a never-ending list and a constant pull to keep pushing, remember: sometimes the most productive thing you can do is to pause. Then, from a place of stillness, move forward, one thing at a time.

    Final Thoughts

    Life will always be busy, and the to-do lists will never truly be “done”. But by integrating small moments of stillness and mindfulness we can change how we approach those lists.  We can navigate the busyness with more calm, more presence and more grace.

    When we feel we have the least time to pause, it’s often when we need it the most.

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